The Pressure of Expressing Thanks


Since before the arrival of Miss Juniper, we’ve had so many friends, family members and neighbors lend a helping hand for our little family. It’s been a real blessing to have such great support. A considerable amount of it is from the great support network of my church. It’s incredible. I couldn’t imagine welcoming a new baby without that.


With all of the help, I’ve tried so hard to stay on top of all of the ‘Thank You’s. It’s hard sometimes! Why would a self-proclaimed calligrapher have a hard time doing that? I tell you why –

For some reason, I put pressure on myself that if I don’t bust out the calligraphy pens or if I (heaven forbid) use a thank you that someone else designed the sentiment is cheapened. It’s like I’m cheating or trying passing off someone else’s work as my own if I use a store-bought card. Also if I use the same card twice.


I’m not trying to complain. These thoughts are completely ridiculous, if you ask me. But no less real. Does anyone else suffer from the same psychosis?

I have found a solution to help me send those much-deserved ‘Thank You’s:

  • Always have a variety of colored envelopes and blank flat cards on-hand so I can mix and match as I choose.
  • Always have a stockpile of stamps (which reminds me, I need to order more!)
  • Keep a list of owed ‘Thank You’s at my desk so when I have a spare moment for practice work, I can work through the list.

I didn’t implement these things until about July of this year. And I’m still working out the kinks in the process. If I were smarter, I would have a pile of hand-lettered cards like you see above already completed. All I’d have to do is write a note on the back. Maybe I’ll get on that bandwagon in the next few months. Change happens so slowly around my neck of the woods. :)

So how do you make sure those ‘Thank You’s get out?

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    1. You should give yourself a break, momma of three! Design a thank you card, and then calligraphy their names on the flip side- that’s what I would do. That way you get the bulk of work done, it’s still a creation entirely your own, and you’re not missing out on the uniqueness.

      Congrats on your beautiful baby girl. Can you believe it’s been a month?!

    2. Chloe says:

      I have a similar issue with store buying anything I could sew myself. It makes me feel like a lazy charlatan…I am currently reminding myself that I have two kids, work four days a week and (most importantly) by buying someone else’s handmade I am supporting them. It’s not necessarily working to ease my guilt, but I think having a relative newborn gives you a pass on anything which isn’t child welfare related :)

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